Many of his daughters’ awards were posted on the wall of my friend’s house. Almost every prize -like score was the first. I did not expect her grades to be so good.During the meal, I asked my friends: “My daughter has such a good grade and so sensible child, should I spend a lot of effort to cultivate?”
My friend grinned and smiled, and said:
“I may not believe it, but in fact we really don’t spend too much thought to cultivate her, basically it is natural.”
At first I didn’t believe it, and then I believed in his words.
Friends are a cultural person and like to read books. There are books everywhere at home, especially in love with historical philosophy books.He is a teacher and likes to read books.
They rarely watch TV. After dinner, they went out for a walk for 1 hour. After returning home, they gathered together. Sometimes they listened to my father about interesting historical stories or listened to the mother playing the piano.
There are very few friends and meat at home at home. Basically, friends who come with are scholars. He will never play mahjong or set up wine bureaus at home.When he sees a friend, he usually brings his daughter. The friendly attitude of his friend’s respect and obsession with knowledge has a great impact on his daughter.
The daughter has an independent bank card, an independent room, an independent desk, an independent suitcase, etc. Parents must knock on the door before entering her room, and to deal with her consent related to her daughter -in -law and respect her very much.
Friends and wives are also well -known, polite and polite, growing up in such a good atmosphere, and the daughter is educated and learned well. Normally, there is no need to deliberately cultivate!
03
If education is compared to a river, family education is upstream, and school education is downstream.If the quality of the upstream is contaminated, it is bad to flow to the downstream.
Many parents and children complain that the teacher is not educated without education.You causing such a bad native family yourself, please forgive the teacher for the teacher?
I have heard a lot of parents saying to the children, you have to work hard to read, do n’t be like me. I just had a loss of culture without culture. Now what happened, and then I would urge the child to finish the homework while playing Mahjong.
What do children think at this time?You play mahjong, I do homework, I do my job when you watch TV, and you do your homework when you play your mobile phone?
Children are a copy of parents. He will copy your good and bad. His initial imitation and learning object is his parents.
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I have heard a story, saying that it is a child of a single -parent family. The father’s culture is not high, the family is very poor, and the child has a very poor grade.
At the parent meeting, after the teacher asked his father to talk, his father was distressed and smoked the cigarette for one night. Finally, he thought of a way: After the child was school every day, he asked the child to teach himself again.Participate in learning together!
As a result, the effect of this method was significant. The child felt that his daily learning significance was extraordinary. The father stopped the method until the child obtained a key university.
German philosopher IELTBLs said: What is education?Education is a tree shaking another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul wakes up the other soul.
There have always been two kinds of tit -for -tat views, that is, Chinese education is backward to stifle the child’s nature, providing a lot of manpower for the lack of imagination and creativity, while Europeans and Americans can shape through their education.Leading these manpower people.Another point of view is that children in developed countries are too easy. In the future, they will pay the price. They can not compete for Chinese children, and Chinese children are diligent and hardworking.
Seeing this Swedish child, I think we Chinese are sometimes too anxious.I studied from the kindergarten to the university in one breath, and never thought about whether to stop and rest.For children abroad, there can be a long adjustment period after graduating from high school, and then decide what kind of school they are going to take is to receive vocational education or university education.
Thinking back that he knew that he was busy studying in the senior year, but he thought very little about the future, and no one inspired this aspect.When I finished the volunteer, I only reported a self -righteous major within two or three days.
If we can also calmly, take a year or two, let the child do what he wants to do, and let him learn what he wants to learn freely and happily, will it be better?The Chinese always feel that it is a very shameful thing to go to school, but I think it is necessary to get breathing in intense studies and give yourself time to understand your true thoughts.The total scoring in seconds must run to the end, but found that it is not good for the destination you want.
In this environment, everyone feels that the status quo is like this. If you do n’t keep up, you have to fall behind. This collective thinking and obedience have never caused good results.
Education is that parents teach with their own words and doctrines to wake up a young seed, and use their own real movements to slowly affect it, so that it takes root and sprouts and leaves.